Discovering the secret formula

I’m always curious about the secret formula of a successful relationship. What makes men and women happy? Why do some people get married and others don’t? So, I asked myself, what is something that only girls know, but guys don’t?

And I guess that’s the fairytale of a happy relationship.

Women are told to find a prince, marry and have children. It starts when you’re too small to care and haunts you when you’re too old to let other people control your life. I speak of this from experience. The fear of not getting #married is real and social media makes it worse.

Even though those picture-perfect couples aren’t as happy and relationships end in countless horrible ways, most women have a tough time letting go of the white dream.

Their dream pops with a separation post. We’re very much part of that bubble, feel bad for them, or fear their lie impacts our lives. What if we’re wrong? How could we believe in a happy relationship when we’re fed so many lies?

That brings me back to my friend who told me how surprised some family friends were when they announced their separation.

“Seeing how they had bought our lie was worse than seperating.”

She expected to lose a few friends over the separation, but she didn’t.

“I wish they had confronted me about it, but they didn’t. They felt sorry for me and told me what an idiot my husband was for letting me down when the reality looked much different. I was the one who let them down with my lies. But nobody said something. I wish they had ended the friendship.”

I don’t know about you, but I’m sick of the same old #dating advice.

In my friend’s days, it was the modern wife: An educated woman who balanced a family and a professional career. She failed both:

“Inowherehere near my family or career goals.”

Particularly, the stuff that gurus are telling dudes to do to get their #dream girl, and these days a hot girl.